How to Help a High-Functioning Alcoholic in Denial

High-functioning alcoholics are often in denial about their problem drinking and the role it has on their loved ones. They do not fit the “drunk” stereotype and seem to function normally. High functioning alcoholics may believe that they do not have a drinking problem because they are able to maintain a job, interact with family and friends, and generally maintain their everyday responsibilities. Because of this denial, they may be one of the types of alcoholics most in danger of not getting the help that they need.
Family and friends of high-functioning alcoholics also may be in denial about their loved one’s problem because they fail to see the signs. An important step for recovery is to stop denying that a high-functioning alcoholic needs help. Signs of a high-functioning alcoholic include:

1. Uncharacteristically start skipping social events
2. Sudden lack of focus or change in attitude
3. Suffer from insomnia, paranoia, or shakiness and other typical signs of alcoholism
4. Miss deadlines at work or call in sick often

It may be challenging to approach a person who is a high-functioning alcoholic because they do not see their drinking as a problem. The best time to approach someone who needs help is when they are hungover or feeling guilt or remorse. Explain your personal feelings in a way that does not cause them to become defensive and explain how their drinking affects you and your loved ones. Approach them with compassion, but do not let that cloud your judgment. You have a responsibility to your health, so it is important to walk away if their lifestyle is too emotionally damaging. A high-functioning alcoholic will have excuses for their behavior, but you cannot allow them to justify their addiction because then they will not have a reason to change.

Alcoholism is not a simple problem to have, but recovery is possible. Alcoholism has an emotional, physical, and spiritual toll on the individual as well as their family and friends. Your patience, firmness, honesty, attitude, and support are important for an individual who is making the decision to quit drinking.

Read the original article by Karleia Steiner on PsychCentral by going to How to Help a High-Functioning Alcoholic in Denial.